Take Time To Bond.
Find a good activity you both enjoy doing and set some 1 on 1 time together. Sometimes our young ones don’t know how to express their feeling like us adults do. Sometimes they could even be ashamed or feel like you may judge them. It doesn’t matter how big or little a problem is or even if you think its petty it may affect them differently.
It is NOT always the physical gifts or presents that light them up and make them smile. One on one time with your loved ones is so much more important to them and the open up so much more with the family bonding than you might realize.
This was the goal Landon and I set out to achieve when we started https://outdooractivitieskids.com/. For example, this past weekend our son Landon loves to barbecue but it was so cold. We found a little propane garage heater from the local farm store that was relatively inexpensive and hung out in the garage doing crafts while the barbecue was cooking.
We made some family bracelets from colorful pipe cleaners and beads. He even made some with his dog’s name on them so they could be included. Something as simple as that absolutely perked him up and you saw all the worry and stress leave for those hours of simplicity.
- Keep things small and simple and fill them full of positive complements because they see the struggles us as adults go through and don’t quite understand how to interpret them the way we do. Try not to let the bad in because let me tell you sometimes us adults steer in a negative direction and we take our children down the road we choose in life. Please feel free to jump on our website and leave your opinions. We love to know what others feel about our journey and we will definitely read them and write you back. Have a wonderful day from Kevin and Son!
What a refreshing post to read. One on one time with your child is so important, they definitely need to have some real attention and an environment where they can open up. It says father an son bonding but it’s important for little girls to bond with their dads too! Nothing beats family time. It could be a simple came of cards or their favourite board game! Too much time is spent online nowadays. I’m glad and proud that my house has always been full of crazy fun board games to share! Enjoying each other’s space and and energy!
thanks !
It is very important especially nowadays with all the negativity around us. I absolutely agree that father daughter time is equally important. It shows the little girls how they should be respected when they get older and have their own relationships. It’s weird you bring up board games because that was our favorite pass time around the holidays. My mom always brought a bag of board games the whole family would play after the holiday festivities where done. I greatly appreciate the time you took to read our little post and even more so that you left us feedback, Thank you!
Kevin and Son
This is wonderful, Kevin. Wish my dad had heard this when I was young. Our ‘together’ time was either going fishing (no talking, you’ll scare the fish) or hunting (you guessed it – no talking you’ll scare the prey away).
He was a very smart man, able to create jigs to do a job when he couldn’t afford to buy a tool to do it. He had me help him change a motor in one of his cars when I was 14 (decided then I would never be a mechanic).
It is so important to develop this one-to-one interaction and flow because issues not aired and helped can mark a person for life.
Overcoming the weather and finding fun things to do while meeting your son’s need to barbecue and including the dogs was brilliant. Surely this spoke volumes to him of how much he was loved by you.
Your input, I hope, comes at an appropriate time in many of your readers’ lives and brings change if this is not an ongoing part of their lives.
I like the admonition, “Keep things small and simple and fill them full of positive complements…”. This means anyone can do something to add this to their growing children’s relationships and plant seeds for passing it to their offspring, thus improving the next generation.
Overall, I would give you a five-star rating for content and purpose.
It is very important, and I believe he had an awesome time as did his MOM! I grew up with a similar background as yours. My dad was a work-aholic and our quality time generally was spent working in the yard. I can’t complain because we are a pretty close family, but it also is a much different time than it used to be back then. Now it’s all about the electronics and not really socializing so it does good to slow down and spend that quality time with your loved ones. I appreciate your kind words and the time you took to give us feedback and you better believe I will let Landon know we reached another person in our journey!
Kevin and Son